I don’t know about you, I LOVE looking at other people’s lives on-line. CREEPER AND PROUD. I love the spectacle that is other people, the fabulous and the trainwrecks alike.
So God bless Instagram for the picture of legendary parties and amazing food, God bless Tumblr for (unattainable) luxurious lifestyle, flawless outfits, and the yoga poses I can wrap neither my head nor my limbs around. Thank the bloggers for their My Life Latelies and Insta-Diaries, thank the people who ghost-write the biographies of geniuses and socialites and celebrities. I LOVE IT ALL.
But as we are looking at other people’s lives, through all these channels and sociale media outlets, we neglect what’s directly on the outside of ourselves: What is going on in our own lives?
How do we experience our own lives? Is it something that happens in between watching tv, being immersed in the blog of some fashionista with a trust fund or watching Keeping Up With The Kardashians? Do you pay attention to what happens around YOU? In your heart and head? Or do you lose yourself in (cheap)entertainment and other distractions like work and other people?
Spending way too much time on-line instead of studying? Procrastinating instead of creating? Filling your head with so much knowledge on random celebrities you forget your own birthday? If you ask me*, we are way too interested in other people’s lives and what makes them the way they are . We easily neglect the important parts of our own lives and what makes us the way we are.
That’s kind of weird. I am not advocating egotistical narcissistical notions but instead let’s talk about a healthy enthusiastic curiosty towards your own life and your own fine self.
I mean, it’s nice to look at someone who has a dream life. It can even be an inspiration when you don’t exceed the daily recommended dosage. But if it grows into a major obstacle if you spent more time admiring someone else’s life than you do actually experiencing and living your own.
Less looking at other people’s lives, more living in your own. Less watching how other people are doing it, more experimenting and experiencing how you are doing it. Be curious about YOUR own live and all it’s aspects.
Because there are loads of fun, funny, special, unique and simply extraordinary elements in your life. Honestly, your life DESERVES your undivided attention (pro tip: this will also improve your life through less comparing to others and more engaging in your own). Not to go all Hallmark on you, but the fact that you are walking around on two legs with both a mouth and a mind is pretty fucking amazing.
I have moments where I am completely baffled by this, by the way. Kind of like a baby who discovers its own hand. The fact that I am alive, that I breathe and have brains and that I love people and shit? Um, that’s pretty amazing.
I am lucky I’m alive and I am a lucky girl for living MY particular life. Being born from two of the most emotionally stable people in the history of Homo Sapiens, with the funniest guy I know as my brother, in this big and supportive family. Living together with this amazing guy, who I’m a team with in a way I’ve never been with anyone. I enjoy the teaching that I do, the yoga, the dancing at techno parties, juicing as well as strong coffee. I think it’s unique that whenever I write, whether it flows easily or is like shitting a brick, I feel home.
There are so many unique and awesome things about my life, big and small. I should be more present in my own life and stare at those. I think you should too.
So, to start you off, tell me three unique elements about your life that you really appreciate. Whether it’s your mom, your talent or your favorite place to go, whare to share with me, and maybe remind someone else about the extraordinary in their own life.
*And for the sake of this post and pretty much ALL the stuff I write, let’s pretend that you do.