1. Elise says:

    First of all, thanks a lot for writing an article on this topic.

    I believe you are right about the stress being self-imposed. It seems pretty clear then that I could also be relaxed instead of stressed out… by trusting that I’ll do fine anyway, that it’ll be allright no matter what.

    On some level, I actually allready know the issue that is causing this stress. Something to do with self-value based on high grades and perfection instead of unconditional self-love. Let’s just say that I’m working on it. Usually I work hardest (on taking good care of myself that is, not on studying) after the exam week. By then I realise again that I should take good care of myself first, at all times, instead of only if I have some time left after studying.

    @mille pagine: on that topic I’m always reassured by something Leo Babauta wrote:
    “You will miss a ton, but that’s OK. We’re so caught up in trying to do everything, experience all the essential things, not miss out on anything important … that we forget the simple fact that we cannot experience everything. But the secret is: life is better when we don’t try to do everything. Learn to enjoy the slice of life you experience, and life turns out to be wonderful.”

    Realising this helps me relax when I experience fear of missing out because I can’t do everything at the same time. I choose to do some things, the ones that are most important to me, instead of trying to excell at all of them at the same time. However, I do believe that if you really want something, you can do it. Maybe just not 10 huge somethings at the same time.

  2. DES says:

    “You should take care of your happiness”
    true. Stom dat ik heel lang dacht: waarom doen anderen zo stom tegen mij! Waarom zorgen ANDEREN er niet voor dat IK gelukkig ben/word??!!

    Nu snap ik het pas.

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