Mar 302014


DISCLAIMER This is a promotion blog post featuring my new favorite Etsy shop. After my first order, one that I placed myself, I love the shirts I received. I asked the owner if she wanted to be promoted on my blog. She did, and that’s how I received two shirts free of charge. 

Can we move on to the fun part now? Because I found a fucking cool Etsy store and want to share it with you. Sheesh.

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Feb 012014

IMG_0063At MemoryLane

Aaaaaaand it’s February. I’m on the couch with coffee and Dexter episodes right now and since I am not good for anything else tonight, I’d figure I’d try and write a Month in Review thing.

Why? Let’s see if I can do it without boring you to death. Also, I figured that if I want to do a year recap at the end of the year I can just link back to all the different months. My creativity to be lazy knows no bounds. Ok let’s go.


NEW YEAR Started out with my babe Lin and our boyfriends and a lot of champagne. Accidentally shattered a champagne glass (and was more concerned with the fact that there was less champagne to drink than with the fact there was glass on the floor. Priorities, people.)

The next day, this heartfelt connection with alcohol turned into a nasty divorce. With custody battles over my mental health and several of my organs. I spent it on the couch in recovery-mode, watching Marvel movies with Manfriend, indulging in my hang-over cure: Eating ALL the foods.


YOGA Second best hang-over cure? Exercise. On January 2nd I drove to the yoga studio and did a very easy-going class. It was then that I decided to do the Girl Does Yoga series in order to rebalance and normalize my yoga practice.

It’s not always easy. I sometimes find myself unnecessarily procrastinating on getting my ass to the studio, but it is getting better. Once said ass is in said yoga studio, everything is great. It’s about showing up, and I’m learning how to show up in the good way.


PILATES Discovered Pilates Place Rotterdam and Pilates, exercise more focused on training strength and your core while simultaneously stretching. I’m going to take a Reformer class there every once in a while because I find it a really fun and challenging work-out, that lasts only 50 minutes and that is 5 minutes away from work. Practical and saves time.

WORK Finding my way around my new duties and responsibilities, while slowly moving away from my regular tasks. It’s going pretty well. I am going to miss my students for a while, but I still can’t believe I get to do what I’m doing, because it combines everything I love. Which is also terrifying because what if I mess something up oh God oh God be right back nervous breakdown.

BOOKS Within the first chapter I was completely captivated by Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn. It’s been a long time since I actually stayed up to read, but for this book I totally did. Very heavy but brilliant and surprising. I’ve also finished Neil Gaiman’s American Gods (weird but good) and a collection of his short stories, but I’m still working on the God Delusion by Richard Dawkins — Not really a light read, that one.


(My grandmother baked me cookies and if that’s not the cutest effing thing then I don’t know what is) 


  • SOMEBODY STOLE MY MUG AT WORK. Which is not a big deal, but I did really want it back. After all it fits an ocean of tea and it is mine. After being on the look-out for two days (aka staring creepily into other people’s offices) I FOUND IT. Then this happened.
  • I was obsessed with blue cheese for two weeks straight and had it every single day during that time.


  • Drank a lot of Celestian Seasoning’s Lemon Green Tea and Sleepytime Peach Tea. These were sent to me for a review and although I LOVE them and I’ve been guzzling the stuff like a dehydrated camel, I’m still working up the guts to dedicate one post entirely to reviewing…tea. Lord knows I can’t do it as good as Iris did. So if anyone knows any alternatives for “This tea is great” that’d be super.
  • Went to FortyDegrees and had lunch with Huub after. Having lunch with your old yoga teacher who is equal parts awesome, interesting and intimidating? Highly recommended.
  • I had a massage at TensionTamers yesterday, which was great and very relaxing. BUT, while I was getting massaged I thought about Monica from Friends getting massaged and I was trying really hard not to laugh, so OBVIOUSLY next thing I knew I was thinking of EVERYTHING funny that EVER happened in the history of the world. Long story short at one point I fucking LOST IT. Michiel probably thinks I’m completely insane. Oh well. It’s always easier to get that revelation out of the way early.

I’m very excited for February.

I get to go to Paris with Lin and EAT/DRINK EVERYTHING, do a lot of yoga, work a lot and write when I can. Oh, and go read the Fault in Our Stars when I’m ready for my next emotional breakdown over literature. All in good time.

Have a great weekend!


Jan 072014


(“What you gonna do, huh? Who you gonna call? I’M NEVER TAKING OFF THIS WARMANDTOASTY SWEATER AND YOU CAN’T MAKE ME. Wha’eva, I do what I want.” – brilliant caption provided by Femke on my FB-page)

Yes, hi, hello, welcome. I’d like to thank to a patient BFF, a good camera, wine and of course the photogenic purchases for the reasonably-okay pictures featured in this blog post. Below.

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Dec 252013


 The present on the right is for me. Manfriend only put it under the tree yesterday because he knows how much I hate it when people torture me with their upcoming gifts (seriously, dick move). So, it’s only been here since yesterday and it’s STILL driving me insane that I don’t know what it is.

Hi. So yesterday I tweeted: “Not blogging for Christmas because guess what I fucking can”

Which is a legitimate reason on its own, but what helps is that I really want to do other stuff for Christmas.  Light candes, play records (Black Keys is a current favorite), watch old movies with Manfriend, drink bubbles and spend time with my loved ones.

I just want to do Christmassy-stuff for a couple of days. That’s what I want to do to make 2014 more wonderful, which was what this challenge was all about in the first place.

So that’s what I’m doing.

BUT. Apparently as a blogger you have to assume that your blog is the most important thing in your reader’s life and that everyone will STILL make it a priority to visit your blog on Christmas**, so I dove into my archive and looked up some of my old articles that you might like to read while I am away being a bad blogger.

I hope that keeps you entertained for two days.

If not, and you REALLY want to read more of my stuff over Christmas during the little alone-time that you might have, download my other two e-book-thingies (Law of Attraction and Habits) that are only 5.50USD/4.00 Euros each or the combo pack that is 9.00USD/6.50Euros.

After that lists of links and that totally shameless referral to my stuff for sale****, I’m just going to tell you to have a lovely Christmas.

Later, babies.

*Click. Such merry and so Christmas, Raffika. 

**If you DO visit my blog on Christmas, I think that’s fucking cute. If not, have fun and I’ll see you later. 

***Which I still haven’t finished because I’m a dick. 

****There is one more shameless plug coming up on New Year’s, but TRUST ME, it’s going to be SO GOOD that you will forgive me for it. And then I’m done until I drop a new e-book. Pinky promise.  

Nov 102013

Photo on 2013-11-10 at 15.19

Hi Internet Friendz, happy Sunday.

I’m happy today, because I had a lot of cake but also other reasons. So I hereby present my very first real personal gratitude list on the blog: That Whole Gratitude Thing.

(Possible Undertitle: Everyone’s Doing It And If They’re Not They Should Be Because Gratitude Is Healthy And Important And Stuff.)

Including Instagram pictures and Manfriend. Enjoy. (Or not, I don’t know your life and what you’re into.)

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