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Major Monday Make-Up Post!

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Jan 282013

Well guys…I am finally out of my funk! I’d go into my whole inner emotional turmoil, but actually I really don’t want to so I’m skipping that therapy-moment for now.

Luckily, after giving my Law of Attraction workshop Saturday, I felt like my normal self again. Finally. I am still absolutely glowing from the company and positivity vibe those workshops give me, and it made my entire being do a happy 180. Thanks, ladies. I am back in touch with all my inner weirdness, excitement and that positivity you have all come to know and love (or get annoyed over, who knows what you do behind your computer).

Good news: I am writing again! About damn time too, because writer’s block was making my head explode. Now I have about 6 outlines for cool new articles. The bad news is that I write in my notebook and I have had zero time this weekend to turn my Paperblank scribbles into the long-winded elaborate articles you have all come to know and read maybe halfway through before you go back to cats and fandoms on the Internet.

But I felt weird leaving my blog and readers alone for over a week and I wanted to make my ‘prolonged’ absence up to you. A few days is fine, because I am totally that ~~rebel writer who doesn’t get tied down~~ easily distracted and preoccupied, but I don’t want to be more unreliable than that. Plus, I miss you guys in terms of comments and happy people reading my stuff.

So I decided to post some tips I shared before in my Self Help School Projects. Basically five tips in the three areas I talk about the most that you might like to use someitme (and let me know if you do!) Have a kick ass Monday!

General Self Help

Wake up 15 minutes earlier tomorrow. Dedicate these 15 minutes to something ‘You’. Be it meditating, an extra beauty routine like straightening your hair or smokey eyes, a quick at-home workout or just a more relaxed breakfast with your favorite book. Do something early in the day that says “I’m Committed To Taking Care Of Myself”.

Write down the answer to the question of “What am I bored of?!” (Idea stolen from Alex Franzen). Whether it’s the same pasta you end up having three nights a week, that one friend that only talks about old friends, Facebook, your weak arms, etc: figure out what bores you or makes you roll your eyes. Now that you know, you can move from boring to brilliant. Simply by going in the opposite direction! More variety in dinner, spending time with friends who talk about worldly events, logging off Facebook and doing those damn push-ups.

Think of someone you admire and do the one thing that you think rocks. For instance, Angelina Jolie takes a much-needed break in her busy schedule specifically for Brad Pitt (wouldn’t we all like to be able to do that) and you can make some Boyfriend Time in your schedule as well. Other examples would be eating more vegan (like Merel from the Groene Meisjes), being more forgiving (Dalai Llama) or not afraid to be yourself (Self help God Steve Pavlina).

Make the BLUH-List. The BLUH list is the list of things you have been putting off forever. Items on my list include figuring out how to work with SEO, contacting BOL.COM about their plug-in, changing my Rabobank personal information to the correct address and figuring out my perfect health care plan. Make your list. Once you have the list, do one thing immediately to make the list shorter. Call to cancel your useless gym membership (and take up another sport) or Elle subscription, go to the drycleaners and finally return your friend’s book to her.

Write down what personality traits you attribute to yourself that you’re bothered by. Pick one or two and try to think of yourself completely different in that aspect. You’re no longer Control Freak Carla, you’re Laidback Lucy. You’re not Anxious Annie, you’re Peaceful Patty. Get my drift? Erase from your memory the personality trait you don’t appreciate as much as the rest, and when something happens that would normally activate that part of you, try to react from the complete opposite. See how it feels. Usually something in the middle ends up feeling most comfortable, but it’s a good exercise.

Health

Do your own research about food. Find out what you want to know (or really don’t want to know) about what you eat. Find books, scientific articles about certain dietary lifestyles. Look up the dity dozen and the clean fifteen, explore foods with high protein content, the superfood with the most antioxidants or vitamins. Knowledge is power and it will guide your choices. If things are contradictory, find which side has most evidence, research which of the evidence is most convincing or: Simply trust your gut.

If you have the time and resources, eat organic/raw/vegan/vegaterian for one day. Just for one day, to see how you like it! Document everything, like you’re doing an experiment. How much you spend, how much effort you have to make to prepare it and how it makes you feel. It’s a very good way to assess: It takes away the possibly unrealistic hurdles about rep time or costs, and adds the experience of possible advantages or disadvantages.

Having breakfast-dessert. It’s a sweet treat/dessert type food you have after breakfast instead of after dinner. Makes absolute sense as you still have the entire day to digest it while it may sit in your stomach uncomfortable if you have that tiramisu too late. Worth a shot, I have actually tried this before: It is fun and feels a tiny bit naughty, which makes it even better!

This is an interesting twist on exercising, also from Alex Franzen: Modeling a work-out to one of your idols or heroes! Think a Wonderwoman work-out, running like you’re a professional athlete (without killing yourself mind you) and G.I. Jane push-ups. I am personally going to channel an inner superyogi that I have always admired. I’m also not above channeling my inner Black Widow, Catwoman or that one where Jessica Alba is a cowgirl stripper.

This is a little different than the others, but I seriously believe a little hiatus from fashion magazines and staring at pretty models on the Victoria Secret website can sometimes be a very healthy much-needed break for your self-esteem and realistic body appreciation and awareness. If you haven’t done this before, start now.

Law of Attraction

Make a Universal wish list for someone you love. Your partner, your BFF, an (estranged) family member you wish the best, a parent or sibling. Imagine all they ever wanted realized in their lives. I believe it is good to practice positive intentions for other people as well.

If you have something in mind that you really want to manifest, grab a notepad and pen, close your eyes and ask yourself: What can I do to make this (come into my) reality? Write down each and every thought that comes up. This is a way to crank up your Inspired Action. The Universe digs that.

Wake up and decide you’re going to feel like the luckiest person alive today. The luckier you feel, the luckier you’ll be.

You need to feel quite deely and passionate about this one but it can work miracles if you do: Choose a situation or area in your life you are deeply discontented with and send a big Universal Request for something to change or be resolved. Do it in the same way you normally ask for other things. Depending how willing you are to let go of the situation (sometimes we hang onto horrible things because they are familiar and comfortable), things usually change rather quickly.

Think to yourself “With what great positive action can I positively impact myself and everything around me, right now?” This can range from cleaning your apartment to donating to charity to striking up small talk with a lonely-looking elderly woman to taking your friend to yoga. Anything goes, as long as you do something good.

Law of Attraction Lecture The 26th!

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Jan 182013

So what happened was, after this post in which I said this:

“Now, for anyone who would still love to sign up for a Law of Attraction Workshop and be one of my dining room table buddies: More than welcome to reserve a spot already! Just send an email to info@theselfhelphipster.com because I plan to do another one in January with only 8 spots (I feel like little groups are my thing for now)”

Within a week or two all eight spots were booked. Holy cow, right? But you know how it goes, people (yours truly included) have busy lives with both pleasure and business shenanigans, and so now it turns out 5 6 of them weren’t able to make it anymore when the official date rolled around and got closer. Which means, spots opened back on up! And if you want to and have next Saturday available, you are totally and cordially invited to spend it with me.

What will I teach? I’m basically going to open up my entire cabinet of tricks. This includes but is not limited to:

The basic mindset
Vibration Explanation
Manifesting Processes
How to get specific things
Helpful boosters
More advanced tricks

What will we do? Last time people said I could implement a little more practice and so that’s what I’m going to do. This will include but it’s open for suggestion:

Gratitude- & Universal Lists
Figuring out your main obstacle
And trying to tackle that
Energy (or for the more down to earth people: Mood)
Manifesting Exercises

And obviously we’re going to have a good afternoon with tea and green juice and what not. So if that sounds like a plan and you want to join, please drop me an e-mail at info@theselfhelphipster.com and we’ll get things sorted to save you a seat! I for one am very happy I get to do this again, and I hope to see you very soon!

Win My Words: Printed Combi-Edition!

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Dec 222012

Season’s greetings, beloved readers. Imagine me with a Santa’s hat for the purposes of this post. Or in an Oprah suit, although than this might turn into a bit of a letdown for you.

Because in the light of Christmas and sharing how you feel and what not, time for me to tell you I am really appreciative of you. I mean, you come here. On my website. To read my words. Holy shit. For a girl who only ever wanted to write that will always be a big deal. That is never going to get old for me. So I want to thank you all for that and tell you that I am happy that you’re all here, before I get into my whole give away thing.

As most of you know, the only thing I have to give away are my own words. Cue joke here about the weird English and out there niche I have gotten myself into. However, this time, the kind people at Blurb.com decided to help me out with that. Blurbz is an on-line publisher that offered me a voucher to either publish a book or give it away to my readers. Because I’m a two glasses ~~half~~ full kind of girl, I decided to do both!

This Christmas, I am giving away one unique Printed Combi-Edition of Girl Meets Yoga and the Law of Attraction Lecture Notes. This is pretty special because I only printed 20 copies of Girl Meets Yoga and the Law of Attraction Lecture Notes haven’t been printed at all. Talk about a snowflake of a book!

All you have to do is tell me why you want to win it in the comments. No sharing or tweeting or Facebooking required. I’ll pick a winner on the 28th of December to get you that beautifully printed book as soon as possible.

Unfortunately, I can only pick one reader for the printed version (it really is time to start becoming more of a big deal so I can give more stuff away), but I’ll give away the Law of Attraction Lecture Pack to the two runners up too. Just ’cause.

Hope you have a lovely Saturday and sending happy vibes your way, who knows! Maybe even in print next week!

Treasure Chest Recap!

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Dec 192012

WHOOPS – Sorry! Had a major case of (Letting) Life Get In The Way last week. Which is ironic because usually the Internet gets in the way of life instead of the other way around. Especially in my case. Anyway, you can find my apology right here, and if you can take a joke: here.

Now let’s get on with it. I showed a picture on Instagram of this cute little box this weekend and some people still remembered: The Treasure Chest Exercise.

Last June I wrote down a few Universal wishlists and put them away in a box for six months. I called it the Treasure Chest Technique. What you do is you write down things you want to have in life, your closet, your line of work, your kitchen, your house, put it in the treasure chest and leave it alone for six months. The empathis is having fun figuring out the things you want and then completely letting it go. You don’t peek, you don’t spend time thinking about it: You just live and see what happens.

This weekend I opened the envelopes to see what I got and what I didn’t.Let’s review the results.

I wrote down 52 things and manifested 31. In some areas everything I wanted, save one or two, has come into my life, in other areas only a few items on the list came true. Geek that I am, I calculated the percentage: My success rate is 59%. To be honest I thought I would hit more around an 80% rate but I did a couple of things wrong that screwed up the lists I think. Oh well. As I assume Hugh Hefner might say, let’s see if I can get it up next time, sweethearts.

Let’s go into specifics.

Fashion & Beauty: By FAR, the most dissapointing. From my 18-itemed wishlist, I could only cross of 8. That’s not even half! I have the suspicion this is because even though Fashion&Beauty related things have value to me, this area is not my top priority nor my strong suit. I really only give it my attention when I’m in the mood for it and that’s only every once in a while.

The funny thing is that I set the strong intention that I wanted more warm winter clothes and realized that gloriously within a week: Bought one dress (1), received a late ASOS order (2), got to pick some warm cardigans from my aunt’s fabulous wardrobe (3, 4) and found two sweaters on sale at an outlet (5,6). Maybe it’s more sensitive to what you want Right Now, not so much the Long Term: I lose interest in it pretty quickly.

Fitness & Health: Yeah, lol, no. I reviewed it and this is pretty much a little list of (ridiculously unrealistic) goals that I abandoned completely. I think that when it comes to fitness goals, you really should review that stuff daily to keep your eyes on it, because otherwise you’re going to let it slide. I AM finally able to do triangle pose, a posture that had been kicking my ass for almost a year. But that’s a story for another time, another e-book.

Blog & Work: 10 out of 11, with some leniency on the numbers. I aimed for 500 bloglovin’ followers and 1000 on Twitter: I have around 700 on both accounts! I got my first advertorial, gave a workshop (with the second one coming up!), wrote another e-book and am in contact with some really cool people. All I need to do now is get self help publishers to send me their books for reviews but I’m thinking that if I get off my lazy ass and send an e-mail that’s pretty doable.

It’s been a good six months in this area, especially if you consider I’ve only had this blog since February. I think this area was most impressive because it has been the most important to me. I am devoted to it, even when I’m not consciously working on it or thinking about it: Writing and helping people are my deal and maybe that’s why this literally came easier.

Relationships: Five out of five, but I don’t know if that should count: I just wanted everything (relationship with Manfriend, Lin, old friends, meeting new people) to be the same or better and it is.

Material Possessions: This was the most interesting thing to me: I got really specific and wrote down 8 things I really wanted and manifested 5. Unfortunately no Louboutins, iMac or dehydrator just yet, but…

I got the white Matstone slow juicer a few months ago because my old one broke, but had completely forgotten that I wrote down that specific brand and color on that list; it was just a good deal I found on-line. Manfriend and I bought Rayban Wayfarer and Aviators in Venice , Manfriend got me a Nespresso machine as a gift two weeks ago and I also received the iPhone 4s in the mail for my new phoneplan. Thought all that was pretty neat.

In conclusion, it was really fun to open all the envelopes and see what came true and what didn’t. Some of the items I wrote down didn’t hold that much desire for me anymore, and some I still feel as passionate about as I did before. The relatively ‘low’ success rate threw me off a little, but I’m not complaining. Now I am thinking about what I am going to write on the next lists that I’m putting in a box on Christmas eve so I can open them in May and see what has happened. I’m hoping I’ll be hitting an 80% success rate by then!

I wonder about you guys, because I know some of you were planning on doing this too? Did you? And how were your results?

Can I Win The Lottery Using the Law of Attraction?

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Dec 072012

I got an interesting e-mail from a guy who asked me if I could help him win the lottery with the Law of Attraction. Allow me to come right out and say it: No. Non. Njet. Nein. I think trying to win the lottery with the Law of Attraction is going out expecting to catch a great blue whale with your little wee fishing rod.

Your ability to manifest is like the fishing rod: You can definitely catch most swimming things out there with the Law of Attraction. I believe when you practice with the Law of Attraction, your fishing skills get real good real fast and you’ll be catching some big fishes. But manifesting a lottery win is one of those things that I don’t think is ever going to work. Bummer, I know: You could have really used that money!

What a lot of people fail to take into account that the theory of the Law of Attraction might be simple, there can be (and often is) lot of complexity in putting it to practice to really get what you want. Not in all areas, gratitude after all is pretty simple. But I think winning the lottery is about the most impossible thing to manifest with the Law of Attraction. Not because the Law of Attraction is wrong or doesn’t work, but because of the following problems. Here goes.

Unless you’re a Law of Attraction Savant (or maybe horribly delusional?), your conscious mind will protest. Loudly. Because it knows statistics and the idea of how small the chance of you really winning is. You have 1 thought that says “I Am Going To Win The Lottery”, that is going to get buried under a hundred ”Yeah Rights” from the rest of your brain.

Your subconscious won’t buy into it either. Every impression you’ve ever had is in there, and unless you have known about a hundred lottery winners throughout life, your subconscious thinks the chances are statistically hilariously small too. So. 1 thought that says ‘yes it will happen’ and a hundred in your conscious and a million in your subconscious are saying ‘no it won’t. Guess which side wins.

I don’t believe you can shut either two (conscious and subconscious) up, nor turn them off. Sorry, they are a part of you you have to work with or around when manifesting!

Manifesting money by lottery winning consists of two problems. One, you are cutting out ALL the other possibilities of you getting that money from other places (and that’s A LOT) and two, there is no energy behind the intention coming from you. Because you can’t really do anything. There is no action you can execute or energy you can invest. You just have to sit here and wait, lottery ticket in hand. Nothing changes.

Therefore in my eyes, trying to manifest money by winning the lottery is right up there with “I want to lose 20 pounds and have a six pack by sitting on the couch all day”. Your brain doesn’t buy into it, plus you give no effort or energy. And honey, if there is no real belief or positive energy, the Universe doesn’t have anything to work with.

The more realistic and detailed your visualization, the higher the chance you will actually get it. But you have no idea how to deal with all that money. There is no way you have reality in sight when you say this lottery-winning statement. “No chance comes in isolation.” Everything would change if you would get that money, but fact is you probably just set the money-receiving attention without any further thought in how it would work in reality. Have you thought of the details and consequences, when you get that filthy rich overnight? The effect it will have on EVERYTHING? From the hassle with bank, tax and bookkeepers to the weird social situations of losing friends that are jealous and gaining insincere posers sniffing around you, The New Millionaire? I don’t think I could even fathom all that. Could you?

You create a powerless relationship with money, because by putting your eggs in the lottery basket you can’t do anything which reinforces that idea. Things are not in your control. Money is not in your control. You don’t have power over your financial state. You have no say or part in it, you have to sit and wait for the Universe to come and give you your money.

It is way better to either say “I want to be more financially abundant”, “I want to make more money” ”I want to receive a million dollars” (without cramping the Universe’s style with specifics — it’s perfectly fine to want to receive!) That way you can see the financial perks, bonuses and unexpected opportunities and celebrate those, instead of having tunnel vision. Because that is what’s happening my friend. Who knows what financial opportunities are jumping around you while you ignore them and look at some chance game.

There is nothing wrong with financial goals. You can make intention statements like “I want to make a million dollars”. Or twenty thousand dollars. Or two thousands. Something you really believe you could pull off works best. You can manifest if you believe it’s realistic, if you have control over it and if you let it inspire your actions. With this statement you can put your energy in that yourself and inject that intention with positive action and energy every single time you do something for it. The more energy it gets the easier it will manifest.

So yeah. Just my two cents about lottery winning and the Law of Attraction. I’m sorry if I further ruined your notion you can win the lottery by using the Law of Attraction, but I just hope I at least offered some helpful alternatives to manifesting abundance. Kisses.

New E-Book & Audio Book!

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Dec 042012

Saturday I did something I have always wanted to do. I mean, if the world is going to end in a few weeks, we might as well check off some items of our Before I Die Lists, non?

So I gave a workshop/lecture. An actual real one. About a topic that is dear to my heart and as natural to me as breathing: the Law of Attraction. Using it to help you, make you happier and attract the things you want into your life. Yes, it was a spur-of-the-moment decision to do it. Yes, it was in my own dining room. Yes, I did my own catering. But how cool was that these first eight people were willing to come to my house, sit at my dining room table with me to listen to me talk about something that I love. Answer, very.

I was a little nervous beforehand, but the moment people started ringing my doorbell I just started to feel excited: Ready to get going! I had a supergood time. The eight who attended were all so different yet everyone wanted to know more about this whole positive thinking Law of Attraction business. It was cool: Everyone brought their own perspective to the table. Great people and good group dynamics.

I talked about the Law of Attraction until my voice almost gave out, we discussed important details, issues and aspects of manifesting and there was a lot of fun interaction between everyone. We drank tea, green juice (some for the very first time ever!) and I had made raw chocolate and veggie platters to go round. (A. brought chocolate from Lof Der Zoetheid, so obviously he could do no more wrong after that).

What I loved most is that there was complete consensus they wanted to do this again in 6 months. A reunion/refresher/advanced class of sorts. I guess that’s a date then!

They also gave me some excellent feedback to use in the next workshops, I am going to come to Belgium for a repeat if there is enough request and I met some really cool new people. Not too shabby for one of the last Saturday the Mayans say we’re going to have.

I started to transcribe the Lecture Notes on Sunday morning, powered by tea, juice and two cups of coffee. Before I knew it I had almost 12 000 words worth of material on the Law of Attraction. Material that I loved. Material that I wanted to share with more people than just those 8, because I feel it can really help you and get things going!

…Which is why I decided to turn it into an on-line lecture package. Available now on my website & my e-junkie shop. Wanna take a look?

The Law of Attraction Pack includes:

A PDF of almost 12 000 words, 27 pages, filled from top to bottom with great, useable and fun Law of Attraction information & practice. You can put it on your tablet, read it on your computer or print it out and snuggle upon the coach with a cup of tea to enjoy it!

An audiofile for your iPod, phone or computer where I read you the Lecture Notes out loud! I’ve done my best to make it a pleasant and relaxed thing to listen to, it’s an hour and fifteen minutes of audio, so enough to keep you entertained for a little while!

Some Sneak Peeks:

You can buy the Law of Attraction Lecture Pack on-line now, for 25 USD. I’ve chosen to use the American Dollars because there were quite some requests for this material from non-Dutchies and I don’t know, I feel it makes it more accesible to everyone from all over the world who reads my blog. Also, the conversion rate is awesome for most currencies. Good for you.

Now, is it weird for the author to tell you that you’ll be getting your money’s worth? It is? I don’t care. I’m telling you anyway. In fact, I’ll do you one better: I think this is the easiest, most practical and most fun thing about the Law of Attraction ever written. And I should know, because I’ve read pretty much everything I could get my hands on when it comes to the Law of Attraction.

So go for it! Buy the LoA Lecture Pack in my E-Junkie Shop or click the ‘Buy Now’ button below to buy it! Don’t worry about the freaky looking button, if you click it you can just use PayPal and you will get an e-mail with the automatic download of the Law of Attraction Lecture Pack.

Now, for anyone who would still love to sign up for a Law of Attraction Workshop and be one of my dining room table buddies: More than welcome to reserve a spot already! Just send an email to info@theselfhelphipster.com because I plan to do another one in January with only 8 spots (I feel like little groups are my thing for now).

Now don’t worry, it will be even more of a practicing and ‘workshopping’ kind of thing than this first one, so the material you buy now can only enhance our workshop together in the future!

Okay, it’s off to the real world again for me, for as that’s “a thing” in my life anyway. I’m working at the university and doing a lot of stuff in between too. By the way, got an iPhone (so pretty!) and am now an Instagrammer. It’s where you will see the personal ‘diary’ stuff I don’t really do on the website. If you like that type of thing, come follow me! Have a spectacular day and as I say in the Lecture Notes…Happy Manifesting!

Video Plus Notes: How I Work With Manifesting.

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Nov 282012

I focus on the positive in my life. The more you train this, the easier it becomes to attune yourself to that. Just looking around you and giving your attention to all the things you like and love. From a cup of tea to your mother to the weather to that cute skirt. Positivity is where it’s at.

I snap myself out of negative stuff by forming a positive intention statement. As said, I get all worked up over this one woman at yoga and the moment I spend too much time and energy on how annoying I find her and that she ruins my vibe, that I snap myself out of it by going: “But what do I want?” The answer is “I want relaxed, quiet yoga classes.” It works.

I write Universal Wishlists down all the time in my Paperblank. Basically these are lists where you write down what you want, whether it’s material or not, whether it’s realistic or not. Write down the things you really really want into your life. The more powerful you feel about the items on it the better (boosts the energy behind it).

I also write down Gratitude Lists. Everything that I am grateful for gets a shout-out, from almond milk to quality time with my mother to my iPad to my long night sleep with my boyfriend. The more grateful you are, the more you can receive to be grateful about. Plus, it helps you get perspective when you’re stressed out. Things are good, you know?

The Worksheets of Jessica Mullen. Amazing. Click.

I make little mental orders all the time. Whenever I see something that evokes a happy inner excited ‘Oh! I want that!” exclamation, I place a little inner order that I would love to see it in my life one day. From cute blue yoga shorts to a beach house to world peace.

I also visualise a lot, whenever I’m listening to music and am on the go. I visualize scenarios that include the things that I want. All you have to do here is put on some invigorating favorite song and let your mind play with the things you want to have. It puts you in the right mood and can really help getting you going.

Law of Attraction Video.

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Nov 212012

For those of you who can’t be arsed to watch the entire thing (I’ve been there), I basically try to explain what my theory on the Law of Attraction Basic Idea is and how I think about it in my day to day life. Please note this is just about the basic idea and how this works in MY head, not how I put my desires into practical manifesting or whatever, I will try to explain that in another video if you want me to. These are the main points I make in the video (minus the jokes, stutters and accidental eyerolls):

For one thing, I am totally on board of the ”positivity attracts positivity” bit: If I am a positive, happy and helpful person, I will see this reflected into my life. The whole ‘you get what you give’ thing is truth to me. Therefore I make the effort to honor that by being that person. As positive, cheerful, helpful and good as I can possibly be.

The whole “negativity attracts negativity” is different, as I only partially get behind it. I get behind the basic idea. If I’m going to be a negative asshole I will be living the life of a negative asshole. If I let one negative thing get me down, I will only see more negative things that will bring me down further. If I am going to be a complainypants, my social crowd is going to be a complainypants and those energysuckers are not fun at parties.

Now, despite it being the favorite accusation people throw my way, as well as being the number one law of attraction hurdle, I don’t think people cause all their problems themselves. Some, definitely, but not all and definitely not the worst of them. I believe ‘negativity attracts negativity’ only goes so far. I do not believe that people have brought rape/trauma/war/hunger/deathly illnesses etc. upon themselves.

Positive is way stronger than negative, as any Law of Attraction auhor or enthusiast can attest and therefore it makes no sense to me that those big horrible things are completely caused by negativity. I wish I could explain it in terms of the Law of Attraction but in the immortal words of Doctor Sheldon Cooper: “I would if I could, but I can’t so I shan’t.”

I do believe negativity never makes anything better, but that’s not the issue here, just something to keep in mind.

My personal philosophy is that sometimes, life has shit parts in it. And you’re just going to have to go through them. If I may make a suggestion (and I may because it’s my website!), try to always keep a positive outlook as much as you can, but never make a big deal out of being sad or thinking bad thoughts. Read the article I wrote about negative thoughts here.

And what you can practically do with the Law of Attraction during or after the shitty parts of life is set the intention that things are going to get better. That a day will have something nice in it. That you’re going to have a positive experience. That you will feel better than yesterday. Setting a good intention when you can, and trying to get your positivity up again after being down.

Another important philosophy to keep in mind when learning about the Law of Attraction or working with anything self help: Find the things that you can use and that feel right for you, and disregard the rest. Create a mindset that feels the most natural and truthful to you, and never add items that don’t ring true to your heart.

If you got any questions or remarks, always welcome to share!

Law of Attraction: Faking It The Right Way

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Nov 112012

One step in Manifesting that throws everyone for a loop is ‘Pretending You Have Already Received It’. I mean, they’re basically telling you that you are going to have to pretend you already have the degree, the abs, the boyfriend, the peace of mind and maybe the shoes. But how do you do that without feeling like a big fat phony?

It can be super effective; if you can do it right, you start living at the exact vibration that’s necessary for the things you want to appear. If you can live like it’s already there, you invite it into your life at lightning’s speed. But, as said before it should be fun and -also important, not psychotic. I want you to start helping your reality by pretending, not losing yourself in a fantasy.

People often trip up at the whole pretending part because pretending entails: Acting as if you have something that you actually do not. In the word itself you can already see that this can possibly cause some problems. Just the act of pretending can give you the idea of ‘Oh my God, I don’t have this (yet), how sad and sucky for me!’

For instance, people who want to be wealthy and who buy something because they are pretending to be rich, can get this nagging thought and feeling about their current lesser-than-ideal financial state. That is a stressed, negative feeling that can be detrimental to the entire vibration. Similarly, if you want to be thinner, you start pretending you are thin by wearing clothing that are (too) tight, you can look in the mirror and start feeling uncomfortable about your outfit. Again, ruining what you want because the contrast is still too much.

I am here to tell you that there is a good way to pretend, and you can actually let it help you. It’s less pretend, more of a Playful Inviting thing. You don’t have to pretend you have a six figure income and a supercool job right now, if that is just too far-fetched and makes you feel even more sad and uncomfortable with the fact you’re not there yet.

First of all, only do it if it feels right and fun. The moment it only confronts you with what you don’t have and it’s making you feel bad, it’s not the right strategy for you. That’s counter effective. Only do it if you can overcome the initial weirdness and you can enjoy it as it is: a fun exercise to help attract good things.

What you can do is invite the things into your life that you want, in small ways. Small ways would include in this case, having a pretend conference call every once in a while, placing a pretend ASOS order a size smaller, writing a love letter to your Prince Charming who’s estimated time of arrival hasn’t been decided upon. Anything that’s cute, focuses on what you want, and that’s fun.

Because remember, if manifesting isn’t fun – you’re doing it wrong. If it’s not something that you enjoy doing and if it doesnt make you feel good, you’re not really doing it; you’re just making yourself feel worse, torturing yourself with the reality that’s not how you want it to be and the fantasy you don’t believe you can attain. That’s not what manifesting is. There should always be an element of fun.

So if “pretending” makes you feel phony and fake, it’s not the right thing for you. At least not yet, not right now. What I suggest you do is skip the step. Just ask what you want, feel really really good for a second imagine what it would be like and then completely let it go. Move on to the aspects of your reality that you do enjoy.

If you are able to invite that element of play and pretend into your life, I have a few suggestions.

A great way is the Making Room Technique. If you’re currently single and you want a partner, pretend you have a date coming up somewhere in the future. No specifics but just keep feeling that magic anticipation of the first date that’s semi-around the corner. You can also make a little space in your closet for a possible significant other or room mate. You can make room for a new friend by clearing out a night in your schedule. You can make room for a new and permanently fitter you by throwing away the clothes you had that are (almost) too big for you.

A similar thing you can do is Get Excited Over Your Anticipated Future. Just dream a little. What would you wear to your first press event? What would you like to say to a new boyfriend or friend? How would you like to spend your first days in a new country or at a new job?

If you want a certain something, dress for it. Dress for tat job (or that life, or that boyfriend, or that scene. Whatever). Hot journalist, strong CEO, ambitious scientist. Lots of dates, doing lots of freelance, etc. If you feel an outfit works for it, it will work for it. Fashion, beauty and appearance is a great way to pretend, even if it’s just for yourself.

Pretend-play is cool too. You can pretend you have a certain job for 30 minutes or so, right? Doesn’t have to be hard*. Write to your new lover or friends. Look for apartments in the town you want to live in some day and browse the IKEA website.

Place an order with your Universal Delivery Guy. Just order the things you want to buy and pretend they’re on their way. Always effective.

And remember, feel good about it — you should always feel good about it! One of my favorite examples of pretending is Jim Carrey, who before Ace Ventura was walking around with a pretend cheque entitling him to a couple of million dollars for Acting Performances. Look at the guy now.

The same goes for quite a few other people who weren’t quite there yet when they started making vision boards, when they started making Goal- or Wishlists, when they started to give their reality a hand becoming what they wanted it to be, with a little Play and Pretend.

*For me that’s really easy. I just sit behind my laptop with coffee or tea and type all the words.

Manifesting: Show Me The Money.

Law of Attraction, Money, My Own Manifesting 4 Responses »

Nov 092012

My part time job of teaching at university is one of the reasons I love getting up in the morning. Psychology, traching and motivated, intelligent people — for the most part, of course. I’m not one to complain, but a definite albeit surmountable downside is that a part time job doesn’t come with a full time job salary. A definite glitch in my Evil Master Plan, I know.

I can make due, but last month things were a little tighter. However, instead of panicking (again, for the most part) and selling a kidney, I took a different approach. I got the Universe involved, and started working at attracting abundance. Which is a fancy term for using the Law of Attraction to bring more money into your life.

It’s not hard or anything. One strategy I used is that I really relished in the moments that I felt most abundant. Being in my yoga studio or my superfood stocked kitchen, the moments I was drinking champagne or great wine with friends or when I was surrounded by the people and things I love. Looking at my stacks of books, my wardrobe, my house. The moments I feel rich in different ways than my bank account.

In my mind, I focused on feeling abundant and taken care, and thinking thoughts that go well with that. Good financial thoughts. Like “I attract money”, “Money find its way to me” and “My finances will grow”. Make no mistake: Still paid my bills, didn’t start buying expensive stuff to trick myself into thinking I’m rich (bad move). I just felt ‘rich’ and thought positive, financial-happy thoughts.

…That was all I did. I did nothing more and all I had to do next was say ‘yes’ to the opportunities that would present themselves to me. And what do you know, they actually did.

First, Manfred’s bro needed someone to fill in for him at his hotel job. All I had to do was say ‘yes’. I spent two weeks, checking in guests in the most beautiful hotel in Rotterdam. I helped out a loved one and got paid to boot. Awesome.

Second, for the first time in my Internet history I was approached by a decent media company. Not for gambling websites ads, not US take away services links, nothing in conflict with my website or my readers. Actual things I could work with. I’ve always had to say ‘no’ but this time, I finally could say ‘yes’. Milestone if there ever was one.

I also received an e-mail from my job. If I could please stand by to teach second-year students. Again. All I had to do was say ‘yes’.

Of course I am TOTALLY disappointed there was no big bag of money falling from the sky, because that would have been a kick ass story, but these things were awesome. I’m grateful for the little financial wiggle room they gave me, and I believe that my mindset helped.

One of the reasons I got more convinced of that as I was on a roll with the abundance mindset was the unexpected side effect: Project Penny picked right back up. I am finding coins again, everywhere. While I wasn’t even focusing on coins or trying to find them! They were just there. Everywhere! Where I park my bike, on the road, on random cafeteria tables. Even (the Universe has a sense of humor) in the almost exact same situation that turned me into a believer: A coin literally rolled right under my feet as I was in the subwaystation.

For me, this is a clear as day example that however subtle and however pronounced, our minds have an impact on our realities. Cool, no? And who knows where this could lead to. Worth finding out.

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