“I had a bad feeling about this.” “I just knew it was the right to do”. “I can’t explain why, I just know I should do this.” “I can’t put my finger on it, but something is off.” ”I knew I shouldn’t have taken this job.” “I knew I shouldn’t have trusted him.”
Sound familiar? I’m pretty sure you have said these words at some point in your life. Maybe about a project, a shady new man in your life, about a job. I know you probably have said something along the lines of this. You can live with your head in the clouds (hi!!) or be very down to earth, you can be more rational or more emotional when it comes to decision-making, doesn’t matter. Whether you actively do it or not, your intuition is at play here. Meet your intuition: your Inner GPS to Life.
How’s that for a catchphrase.? It’s a statement I stand behind completely. I definitely drive through life with my Inner GPS beeping loudly, giving me directions. But I can feel I have to do certain things, when I should say ‘no’ and when I should say ‘yes’, often before I find or realize the rationalizations behind my decision. When I ignore my intuition (which I sometimes do because it makes so much more logical or practical sense), I always regret it.
Once I realized how on-point my intuition always was, I gave it a lot more free reign and listen more closely. I can honestly say that this is one of the smartest moves I’ve ever pulled: listening to my inner voice instead of over-thinking and letting other people rationalize things for me.
I’m not saying I don’t have an error margin (I am a naive HappyGoLucky and I rather trust people than write them off immediately), but all in all it has brought me a lot more good than bad. These days I try to listen more to my intuition than anything else.
Basically your intuition, your instinct, your gut feelings are with you all the time as it is and it’s probably seeping through in your decision making already. How would you it to exercise it a little more? It’s the same as with your biceps, your brain: the more you flex the more better it becomes. In the case of your Inner GPS, it becomes more accurate, more detailed and makes it easier to predict certain outcomes. I thought of a few things you could do to make your gut feelings more prominent. Bring on some Intuition Training.
- Really ‘feel’ how certain things make you feel. Places, people, future plans, events, even things in your home and foods. Everything. What kind of feeling does your best friend’s new boyfriend evoke in you? Or the idea of traveling abroad when you finish school? Or that house you and your husband want to move into? Feel what kind of inner response comes up.
- Try it for a day. Make all your decisions based on your gut feeling and your instincts rather than thinking about it. Watch what kind of effect that has and of course, what kind of results this renders long term?
- Writing Exercise #1. Write down all the things you have had a gut feeling about in the past. The men who broke your heart (or who didn’t!), jobs, plans, people, anything. What did you feel? What made you feel this way? And of course…where you right or wrong in the end?
- Writing Exercise #2. I did this for a while in 2009-2010. I’d sit down with my note book, be completely still and then write down either a question of a topic. Then I would write down whatever popped into my head. Thoughts that seemed completely random or out of context at that time. It was eery how certain things made sense later on.
- Ask highly intuitive people how it feels for them when they’re right or wrong. It doesn’t have to be the same for you, but it will give you some extra information that might be useful for some finetuning.
I’m not saying you should throw out any rational thought or that you shouldn’t think things through. By all means, think things through. But I do think it’s good you start basing your decisions also on that feeling you sometimes feel and sometimes ignore. I really believe this will save you a lot of trouble and bring you a lot of good things.
Of course I’m very curious to know: how intuitive are you? And how often are you right/wrong?