For me personally, Beyonce (2013) will be forever be the Album of All Albums. Those tracks, those videos, the way Beyonce performed them, the remixes? It was transformative in a way. She transformed as an artist, and I think the album transformed others. I wrote an article about Life Lessons We Can All Learn From Beyonce.
Lemonade – Beyonce? The album and the film/video clips?
I read a comment about Natalie Tran, one of the first and my old favorite YouTubers, the first to hit millions in view- and subscriber counts. It struck a cord with me. In this topic, “that being said, I think she is her own worst enemy, as her irregular upload schedule, vague promises of new content, and subsequent not delivering, have definitely affected viewer/subscriber numbers.”
But that pic was taking last week. I’m in Rome right now, so t’s likely that when you read this, I’m either sleeping off a champagne hangover, buried in pastries or making out against an emperor’s bust somewhere.
Sorry guys. NOTHING ON THE INTERNET IS REAL.
For my birthday, I decided to share some of the lessons I’ve learnt in the past 28 years on earth.
Like what I said before in my how to destroy a negative thought article, I believe our mind should be a good place.
We should have the right mindset for our lives, one that helps you feel good and helps you be productive, kind, helpful and awesome all-around.
But our mindsets are not always the rosy, unicorn-riddled environment we’d like them to be. And it can be so hard to change this.
The rigidity of our thinking can really put the set in mindset.
Our mindsets can be fixed, based on the cumulative experiences, previous thoughts, relationships, what people around us do and say, what we’ve seen in the media and what has been said to us by important figures in our lives. The beliefs, opinions, attitudes and frequently thought thoughts (FTTs) that comprise our mindset are hard-wired in us.
But your fixed mindset is not the only option for you, you know. There are so many more ways to look at a situation, so many more ways to experience the world, so many different ways to think about the things that happen to and around you.
If you know your mindset gets in your way? If you believe you are a failure, you believe you’re never good enough, you believe the Apocalypse of Moldy M&M Rain is upon us (and that’s why you refuse to leave the house anymore) and you want to start challenging that mindset and make room for a new one?
Wikipedia & Urban Dictionary, trustworthy sources for life knowledge (but NOT for academic writing) tell me that the crab mentality is a (social) psychology phenomenon based on what happens with crabs in a bucket.
The crabs could easily escape from said bucket (as they’re climbing all on and over each other, one of them is bound to reach the edge) but never do because they keep pulling each other down.
“If I can’t have it, neither can you.”
In Human Land, this comes down to “if I can’t have it, neither can you without me being a TOTAL DICK about it so maybe you will enjoy it less.”
The more successful you are, the more well known you are, the more other people will be dicks to and/or about you.
Mean comments, uncalled-for criticism, people talking shit behind your back, and maybe in the worst cases even some sabotaging and backstabbing — I can imagine that this could be the case in the corporate world, online it’s mostly just some name calling and 12-year olds being little shits on Instagram.
Crab mentality: if they can’t have it, neither can someone else. If someone else has it, they can’t have it without the rest pulling them down in any way they can.
When I told Andrew this in our Podcast, he dead panned: “Sounds like the Dutch.”
I wish I could disagree with him and come to our defense, saying that we are a better people.
But we are not. It’s true. Some of us worse than others, but we have the tendency to either internally or externally pull each other down.
Because God forbid someone leaves our bucket of mediocrity.
Well, to that I say. Let’s ALL leave the bucket of mediocrity, by tackling that mindset first.