Jan 282015
 

how to make a big decision

Sometimes you guys ask me questions. And I think about them. And then I want to answer. But I forget, I have no time, or I have a brain wave and write something that I find hilarious but that isn’t even remotely helpful.

A question that people ask me a lot is how to make a big decision. Like, a big, potentially life changing decision.

I’ve been thinking about this question a lot. I don’t think I’m the best person to answer it. Then again, I’m not the worst either.

So here’s how to make a big decision, after the jump.

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Jan 262015
 

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Whether you’re a part-time employee, an entrepreneur, a nine-to-fiver, a student with a job or anything in between or beyond these options, work is an integral part of your life.

Unless you have a trust fund (call me), there’s no way around it: You gotta do something to make money.

I respect the notion “do what you love”, sure. But I respect “do what you need to do/suck it up if you have to” even more.

I believe that you can do what you love, and there will STILL be parts of your job and periods in your career where you go “fuck this sucks.” You’re just gonna have to suck it up for those parts.

Work is work. There is something that needs to be done, and someone is paying you to do it.

If you like it all the time, good on you mate. If you don’t, join the club.

But you know what makes your job more fun? Even when it’s not your favorite thing to do? Not sucking at it.

Being good at something makes you enjoy doing it.

(It’s what made me love school. I could have gone pro if I hadn’t blown out my knee.)

Anyway. Here’s a couple of tips on how not to suck at your job.

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Jan 192015
 

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(Not my real and meaningful vision board, but yay visual extra content. Plus, do really want that girl’s sweater.) 

Visionboards are all the rage when one year draws to a close, and a new one begins.

For those of you who don’t know, what you do when you make a vision board is you basically create a beautiful collage that represents what you want to have, what you want to do, and what you want to be. It’s basically creative visual (and hopeful) planning.

And it gives us something to do. Us bitches get bored.

I did mine for 2015 for the 50 Days Until 2015 E-Book. It is totally the same as in the book, but the text is edited and updated to my Actual 2015 here and there.

Wanna see? Actual vision board and article on it below!

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Jan 182015
 

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Look.

I’m not going to do the whole gratitude thing weekly or whatever,  BUT. I am very thankful, most of the time. And when I’m maybe not so much, I do find that it helps me to think about it, focus on those things and write about them.

And I had a really rough day Friday. So suck it up. Another gratitude blog.

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Jan 162015
 

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God, I love staying in hotels. Clean rooms with complimentary chocolates and big fluffy bathrobes, comfortable big beds with great sheets and if you’re lucky, a great bathroom that you will never have to clean.

I spent the first weekend of December in the Mercure Hotel Amsterdam City, upon invitation. Thanks Mercure hotel chain and Ketchum PR: I’m glad you let me run around in your hotel, raid the mini fridge and pass out in my bathrobe while reading a book about vampire hunters. My life.

Here’s what I thought of the hotel.

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Jan 142015
 

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I’ve written about dealing with our Inner Critic before, and how to peacefully and constructively co-exist with this sometimes harsh and demanding part of ourselves.

The highlights of that article? You’re awesome as you are, but if you want you can use your Inner Critic as inspiration. If you can be mindful and unafraid about what you’re thinking, your Inner Critic is fine. Your Inner Critic can even become an Inner Coach with some coaxing.

The Inner Critic can be a major reason for self sabotage, but there is an another one just as annoying. Just lazier.

…The Inner Slacker.

The part of you that wants to lie on the couch and not do anything. This is the part of you that procrastinates for days on end. The part of you that finds not doing anything more pleasurable than working, writing, exercising, or doing anything else productive or social. It’s that part of you that is now not doing what you had already put off doing yesterday.

Your Inner Slacker. The instant-gratification, lazy, passive, non-goal oriented part of ourselves, of any human.

(Mine is a 38-year old dude who lives with his mom and stepdad…What? I like creating characters.)

Just like your Inner Critic has value for us as human beings, so does our Inner Slacker. He wants you to enjoy yourself and unwind. He doesn’t mean to make you a sloth of a person, truly.

But if we want to get anywhere in life we gotta learn how to effectively shut the fucker up. For extended periods of time. So we can get shit done.

Here’s some tips on how to do that, and how to deal with your inner slacker.

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Jan 122015
 

this year's code

“Before the New Year was rung in, I spent a couple of mornings thinking about 2015. I read some great articles that really helped me form clear, simple ideas about how I want to live.

It wasn’t so much about goals, it was about more about how I wanted to do things in general. A way to think and act in everything that I do. A Code, if you will.”

For the first Code of Conduct, click here. For the second one, click ‘Read more’.

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Jan 082015
 

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Before the New Year was rung in, I spent a couple of mornings thinking about 2015. I read some great articles that really helped me form clear, simple ideas about how I want to live.

It wasn’t so much about goals, it was about more about how I wanted to do things in general. A way to think and act in everything that I do. A Code, if you will.

This was the first and most important thing I decided on. Click on if you want to read Rule Number One in my Code for 2015.

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Jan 012015
 

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 Making inappropriate gestures to the camera. I’m a fucking class act.

Happy new year!

I hope you’re not too hungover. I will try not to use Caps Lock too much. I know how much yelling hurts when you’re in that state.

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